Who's the blame?

"Rappers routinely defame and demean black women and call them worse names than I ever did." Don Imus

Lets get this straight, rappers did not invent "Nappy Headed Hoe's." Honestly I doubt Don Imus even listen's to rap music. I've heard the term "Hoe" on many occassions in songs... but "Nappy Headed"... I can't recall.

The comments made by Imus were not made in fun.... if that's what he intended then he should be old enough and wise enough to know those words are not funny to some.

Yes, rap lyrics need to be re-evaluated. But, it's not responsible for the moral decline of America as everyone tries to make it seem.

"Hoes are rustlic
Daddy's in the house
We got hoes and hoes and hoes
Prices so low
We pratically given the coochie coo away
Shake that booty, Shake that booty
Its not a bake sell, its a cake sell
God Damn It." Kid Rock- Pimp of the Nation


"Yeah!
Attitude
Some fuckin' attitude
I can't believe what you say to me
You've got some attitude
Inside that bitter brain
There's gotta be a whore
If you don't shut your mouth
You're gonna feel the floor, yeah!" Guns N' Roses- Attitude


"If you're a little lovesick
Woman I got the cure
Let me be your preacher
And you can be my whore
I feel your heart pumpin honey don't say not
I wanna dive in your river
Take you down real slow
And then your body will quiver
And the river will flow" Bon Jovi- River of Love


The lyrics from every one of these songs could be deemed offensive to women by some.
All are by white men.... none are rap.

I write this to show we can all find fault in something to point a finger as the source of blame.

Let's stop pointing fingers!

Parents- Spend time with your kids. Listen to what they listen to. Know what's going on in their world. Don't let the television and their friends raise them.

Men- Treat every woman as you would like for a man to treat your sister, mother and grandmother.

Women- Stop disrespecting yourself.

During Oprah's two day "What Now" discussion everyone blamed the men. Not one person pointed a finger at the women. If that girl in Nelly's "Tip Drill" video didn't ALLOW him to swipe a credit card through her but cheeks we would have never seen it.
If those half naked girls didn't ALLOW Snoop Dogg to parade them around like doggs on leashes we wouldn't have seen it. If Lil' Kim or Trina didn't refer to THEMSELVES as "Bitches and Hoes" maybe men wouldn't think that it's okay to do the same. It's time we take responsibility for the way are perceived. I'm not saying women are at fault... i'm saying we all are.

My day with the Man who could possibly be next President of the United States

FRESH, PROMISING, REAL, IN-TUNE, SINCERE. These are all the words I heared as I listened to people conversate while they waited for Illinois Senator Barack Obama to arrive at his fundraiser in Tampa last Sunday. More than 2,000 people filled the courtyard to hear, and get a glimpse of the man who could very well be our next President.

Florida A&M University's band kept the crowd entertained. A local singer gave a rendition of the Star Spangled Banner.... then with a rousing introduction.... "Senator Obama, America's been waiting for you!"
Obama appeared.





(that's him coming down the stairs... it really is... give me a break people, I took thees pics on my phone!) He's a natural crowd pleaser. From the start he was personable. He praised the band, joked around and even danced a little jig while asking the band members to show us a little of their moves. He gave us a little background information on himself. He talked about his heritage, and touched on the early parts of his political career. He also shared a thought his 8 year old daughter Malia discussed with him shortly after he announced his presidential bid. This was the kids first road trip. Senator Obama says as the family rode on a chartered bus through Iowa his daughters discussed how much fun they were having. Then Malia turned to him and asked, "but what are we doing here?" Obama says that's a question he often asks himself. What he comes up with, is his dream of bringing Americans together for the better of America.
"If there is a child somewhere here in Tampa that cannot read, that makes a difference in my life if that's not my child. It diminishes my life.
"If there's a veteran in Chicago huddling under a bridge, going through Dumpsters because he's homeless after serving his country, you don't have to know that veteran to feel diminished in your patriotism that something like that is allowed to happen."
Senator Obama also touched on the War in Iraq. His stance is congress shouldn't have to wheel and deal to bring troops home because they shouldn't be there in the first place. At this point it doesn't seem like Senator Obama will have any problem bringing America together. As I overheard a woman who appeared to be in her early 70's say, "look around... there are white people here, blacks, asians, hispanics, young and old. Obama is fresh, he has new ideas... he's Kennedy like."

I'm a FLIRT!

Now I swear to tell the truth and the whole truth.
When it come to dudes I be flirt'n like I was born to,
Smiling like I was born to,
laugh comes right on que...
In the club meeting new friends like I'm supposed to.
I don't understand when a dude that I meet .... at the CLUB.
Thinking just cause I chat with him..... at the CLUB.
That a chick like me trying to holla at him....
Boy please, don't hang around me cause I'm a FLIRT!.....(laughing)


I'm friendly, always smiling, a personable person, some may say a little nosey... but I say that's the inquisitive Journalist in me! I also love meeting new people, and I love to talk. For some reason this gives men the notion that I'm interested in them. When that actually probably only applies to about .5 percent of them.

Note to men: Just cause a woman engages you in conversation, laughs at your jokes, and smiles at you doen't mean she's "INTERESTED" in you. It could just mean that she's interested in you as a person. Nothing more, Nothing less.

God made us UNIQUE....be YOURself.... do YOU.... but STAND by YOUR beliefs.

We live in a world that is not perfect. Prejudices and racism aren't going anywhere. No matter who you are at some point you've done something that may have hurt someone else. Yes, Blacks and other minorities have made great strides in America. But some peoples views will always stay the same. As much as we're alike, to those type of people our skin color makes us SOOOOO different. As you get to know me through my writings, you'll find that I respect people for their honesty and the right to their opinion even if I don't agree with what they say. What I don't respect is people that don't stand by what they believe. By now you've all heard the controversial comments made by Don Imus, on his radio show that's broadcasted on MSNBC.
If you somehow missed it... thanks to YouTube here it is.

And.... if you haven't heard his apology.....

Let's not forget about Michael Richards and his rant.....

And.... his apology....

Oh... I couldn't leave out Tim Hardaway.....

Hardaway issued an apology a week later....

"As an African-American, I know all too well the negative thoughts and feelings hatred and bigotry cause. I regret and apologize for the statements that I made that have certainly caused the same kinds of feelings and reactions. I especially apologize to my fans, friends and family in Miami and Chicago. I am committed to examining my feelings and will recognize, appreciate and respect the differences among people in our society. I regret any embarrassment I have caused the league on the eve of one of their greatest annual events."



Why do people keep apologizing for the way that they feel. Why can't someone stand up and say "I SAID IT!" That's how I feel. It's America, I'm an individual, it's my Opinion! "I'll suffer the backlash, because this is what I believe."

Because the truth is, you can't take words back. It doesn't matter how many times you say your sorry.

Everyone has a right to feel and say what they want.
Don't you think It's so much better to know where you stand with people and where they're coming from?

God made us UNIQUE....be YOURself.... do YOU.... but always STAND by YOUR beliefs.

The 70th Precentile

70 percent of African- American women in America are Single. That's 19 percent more than the overall number of single women in this country. I am a card carrying member of that group. I understand that everyone doesn't want to be married, but I'm sure that's the minority of this number. When I heard this stat I became really alarmed. I thought; "what does this mean for me?" I often dream of the day that I'll meet a man that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and one that feels the same about me. I want to get married. I want to have children. Although I'm fairly young, these numbers make me wonder if that will ever be. I'm sitting here thinking about the circle of young women in my life that are of marrying age and only two have tied the knot. The rest of us aren't near the string. One of reasons discussed as to why so many black women were single.... was because we fail to venture out. Honestly, I have no problem with interracial dating. If I met someone that caught my attention then i'd definitely go with it. However, I perfer a BLACK man. I want BROWN babies. I want to perserve the BLACK family. Cause soon we'll be extinct.